I'd go with the 7-shot.
Yep, it'll kick like the dickens, and no, you won't be as accurate with it as you would be with a small auto.
But, you're carrying a serious bit of stopping power that can be controlled easily enough through sufficient practice. I have yet to find a gun that recoils so much I can't learn to control it.
Hey a .357 has a devilish kick to it with higher grain loads.
I have to agree with Flyer, If you can get the 7 shot by all means. Thats 2 more rounds if you need them instead of 5 or 6. A good thing about the .357 is that will fire the .357 rounds or .38 special, and that will save some money on ammo. If you decide to get the .357, just keep in mind that it does stop most things(bad guys). It has good knockdown ability and the revolver will never jam on you in case of a emergency.